this was in a game where we had argument
i use creature with untap symbol Order of Whiteclay to attack and tap and then i use its untap ability
but then the other player puts a Accorder's Shield on my creature
so then i say that the creature is attacking and he is not using the vigilance
but then other player says that if i dont use the vigilance then i also dont get the +0/+3
but i say vigilance is an ability but the +0/+3 is a bonus so i just dont use the ability but i still get the bonus
but he says that since both are from the same equipment i can either accept both the vigilence and the bonus or reject all of it but i cannot choose not to use vigilance and in the same time get bonus
can we get ruling plz?